Every woman has been there. You’re dating this guy or you’ve just exchanged a few messages after connecting via a dating App and everything seems to be going swimmingly until he stops responding to your texts. How long it takes for this to raise a red flag is often on a personal scale. If you’ve been texting back and forth every hour for a while, you’ll likely notice that he isn’t texting you more quickly than if you’re just texting once or twice a week as you enjoy a casual relationship that could build to something else.
However, the key question remains the same – what do you do?
Recognise That There Might Be a Good Explanation
Sometimes, if a guy stops texting you for a little while, there can be a good explanation for it. Perhaps he’s had to deal with a personal or professional crisis, and if you’re still only in the opening stages of dating, it’s unlikely he’ll expect you to help him deal with that. So, your first response might not necessarily be panic or frustration – give him a little time.
That said, if he’s a repeat offender, some healthy scepticism might be wise. So, how should you react if you think that he is actually ignoring you?
Don’t Badger or Hassle Him
If you’ve sent one text message and there hasn’t been a response, it’s reasonable to send another one later to check-in. That doesn’t mean you should send it an hour after the first demanding an explanation as to why he hasn’t replied. But one additional text message, perhaps sent the day after asking if he’s okay doesn’t come across as unreasonable. However, don’t bombard him with messages. You’ve reached out and it’s time for him to reach back.
Accept It Might Be Over
Some guys believe the way to end a relationship is simply to stop replying to text messages and the woman will eventually get the message and just leave it. No one’s saying this is a mature way for them to act and it might be painful to accept, but if he doesn’t get in touch then you might have to accept the relationship (or whatever you want to call it) is over. Of course, this is likely to be more straightforward if it’s a casual relationship or one in the early stages. If he’s borrowed your car and you’re texting to find out when you’ll get it back – that’s a valid reason to hassle him!
Remember the Wrong Relationships is Not What You Want
It’s difficult to remember this late at night while you’re waiting for a response to your text, but it truly is better to be single than in a relationship with the wrong person. We’ve all had friends who are in relationships with people we perceive to be unworthy of them, and it’s never a pretty sight from the outside. Repeatedly messaging a guy who has shown he isn’t interested or worthy of you is a clear message that you need to do some work on yourself. Yes, you are worth it! No, you shouldn’t be chasing someone or begging them to return your messages because we all get busy. So, stay single and move on – you can find a guy who will text back when you expect him to, you just need to keep looking.
